Books and films about getting — and staying — sober
by Thom Forbes
When I wanted to get sober more than 20 years ago, I found
inspiration in “The Courage
to Change” (Houghton Mifflin), a collection of conversations author
Dennis Wholey conducted about alcoholism with a few dozen famous reformed
drunks, including singer Grace Slick, writer Elmore Leonard, and a few guys I
admired who threw baseballs 90 miles an hour. Two things struck me in
particular as I read Wholey’s book: the inevitable progression of the disease
and the infinite variety of recovery. It gave me hope when I needed a
metaphysical pick-me-up.
A different book, also titled “Courage to
Change” but subtitled “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II,” has been a
comfort to parents, spouses and friends of alcoholics and addicts for more than
a decade. It’s a “daily reader” — a collection of short meditations on topics
such as “manipulation,” and “letting go” built around pithy stories,
reflections and quotes.
“I used to sit in my favorite chair first thing in the
morning and read it before my daughter got up,” says a friend, whose former
husband is an alcoholic. “It causes you to stop and reflect. It helped me to
appreciate that the best gift you can give someone is the power to make their
own decisions and mistakes.”
The granddaddy of the daily readers — there are dozens in
print targeted to many niches — is “Twenty-Four
Hours a Day” by Richmond Walker. First issued in 1954, it has sold
more than eight million copies in 30 countries for the prolific publishing of
arm of Hazelden, the alcohol and drug
rehabilitation center based in Center
City, Minn. In
keeping with the AA practice of taking “moral inventory,” the book reinforces
the responsibility of alcoholics to treat their disease.
“It helps you realize that alcoholism does not come out of
the bottle; that it’s all about the character defects and shortcomings that a
person has, and that you have to change in order to stay sober,” says William
G. Borchert, who wrote the screenplay for “My Name Is Bill W.,” a
1989 television movie that won an Emmy for actor James Woods. The videocassette
of that docudrama has become a staple in rehabs worldwide, and Warner Home
Video recently reissued it as a DVD.
Borchert is also the author of “The Lois Wilson Story,” a
new Hazelden biography about the wife of the co-founder of Alcoholics
Anonymous, whose own achievements are finally coming to the fore.
The co-founder of Al-Anon,
Lois was the first person to identify addiction as a “family disease.”
“Without Lois, there would have been no twelve-step program
because there would have been no Bill Wilson,”
Borchert says. “She sustained him for 17 years of horrific drinking until he
found recovery.”
The most influential recovery book is Wilson’s own 1939 classic, “Alcoholics
Anonymous” (AA Services), which has gone through four editions and sold more
than 25 million copies. In keeping with the AA tradition of anonymity, it does
not bear his name. Nearly one million English-language bound copies are
distributed each year; “The Big Book” is also available to download or read for
free at www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.
Two books helped me understand my relationship with my
daughter, Carrick, who was addicted to heroin. “Terry”
(Plume), by former Sen. George
McGovern, is a father’s story of his daughter’s fatal dance with
alcohol and drugs from her teen years to the morning she was found frozen to
death at 45 outside a bar. Martha Tod Dudman's “Augusta
Gone” (Simon & Schuster) is a mother's struggle to understand
her teenaged daughter's manipulation, theft, drug use and disappearance from
home, as well as her own guilt and doubts. Carrick herself says that the German
film “Christiane
F.: A True Story,” is the most powerful cautionary tale of teenage
addiction she has seen.
“Moyers on
Addiction: Close to Home,” a five-part TV series produced by Bill
and Judith Moyers, first aired on PBS in 1998, is still available for sale and
circulates in some library systems. It holds up exceedingly well, and guides
are available to download for employers, heath professionals, families,
teachers and general viewers at www.thirteen.org/closetohome/html/guides.html.
Many informative narratives also have illuminated addiction
and its impact on others for me over the years. “The Harder
They Fall” (Hazelden) by Gary Stromberg and Jane Merrill, like “The
Courage to Change,” features interviews with celebrities about their addiction
and recovery and reaffirms both the common threads and unique cut of each
person’s disease. Caroline Knapp’s “Drinking: A
Love Story” (Delta), Pete Hamill’s “A Drinking Life: A Memoir”
(Little Brown), and J.R. Moehringer’s “The Tender
Bar” (Hyperion) are all compelling memoirs by newspaper reporters
that capture the allure of alcohol. Of course, all three authors eventually
realize that, as a bartender told Moehringer, “drinking is the only thing you
don’t get better at the more you do it.”
From the Robert Wood Johnson
Foundation's "Silent Treatment: Addiction in America" project, produced by
Public Access Journalism LLC.